We are constantly striving to be happy and content with our lives. Some get happiness out of buying a bigger house while others are happy to own a luxurious car or getting a well paid job. While its completely fine to derive happiness from small things in life, its never a good idea to make it a derivative of such materialistic things.
It happens quite often that we want something badly in our lives but just because we cling onto some poisonous elements or negative feelings, it becomes hard for us to let them go and move on. And then we start wondering as to why it’s so hard to be happy.
If you are a student or a working professional, chances are that you have experienced some kind of emotional hurt or the other in your life. What do you do then? Do you ruminate endlessly about it or you do something to get a control over it. Blaming others for a past hurt seems like the most convenient option for us most of the times without realizing that we can get stuck in this pain and endless blame game without gaining anything out of it.
Letting go is not that easy! But if you are ready to travel that extra bit, you can actually get a boost towards extra happiness.
Here’s how you can let go of past hurts to lead a much happier life:
- Stop the blame game: Blaming some one for your miseries won’t change anything even if he/she was responsible for it. No amount of rumination has ever fixed any relationship issue. So why choose to devote so much of energy in thinking about someone who might have wronged you?
- Flush out your pain: Express your pain either directly or indirectly to the person who was responsible for the hurt, to get it out of your system. You may also choose to also vent it out to a friend, write in a diary or a piece of paper which you can eventually get rid of later on.
- Commit yourself: Live up to your commitment of letting it go once you decide upon it. If you fail to make this conscious choice up-front, you may end up self-obstructing any effort to move on and be happy.
- Live in the present: Once you decide to let it go, stop reliving it again and again. Focus on the present as it will help you not to think about the past. After all, the best you can do is to make today the best day of your life.
Letting go is not that easy; it can be one of the hardest thing you’ve probably ever done. But your life should not be defined by any hurt or pain. It’s not healthy, it hampers your ability to focus, to work, and it even impacts your relationships. So do yourself a big favor: Let go of the pain, You can do it!
And i am sure looking back at it someday, you’ll realize that it was absolutely worth it 🙂